As a single woman navigating dating can be a lot like trying to tip toe over landmines in attempts to get to the place of the coveted gold mine a.k.a, a relationship that is divine, healthy, and most of all happy and representative of the love that you release into the world.
I recently took a really exciting business trip to Seattle, Washington! I had an absolutely fabulous trip and wanted to share some of the highlights!
This will be as close to a day-by-day recap as I can remember as I am just recovering from my the time difference and getting back into the swing of things.
I am going to throw this one out there for free…. It rains pretty regularly in Seattle. But being the fashionista I am I caught sight of and later visited the local Macy’s in Downtown Seattle. I really became enchanted with their street set up and planning (more on that later)
This was the first day there as we were breezing by to grab some lunch.
Speaking of lunch! YAYYYY!!!
So this lunch was everything! This was from a local Thai restaurant called Mae Phim Thai. This was their Pad Him Ma Pan. I had them add pineapple and rice to this but the vegetables were so fresh, the food was full of flavor, and everything was prepared quickly and the service was awesome! Perfect local cuisine that is definitely worth checking out if you’re in the area. It wasn’t super expensive and I love Thai food so I always like to support small businesses when I go places as much as possible because I love getting a taste of the local flavor!
My photo bomber proves my point exactly about the rain. But don’t you just love the architecture and buildings? This is off Pike St near Palomino.
All bundled up to do a bit of exploration. #selfietime
It was cold and rainy the first few days but I still enjoyed each of those days and gave me an excuse to wear my rainboots! For the win!
YAYYYYY FOR MARIOS! If you’re a fashion fiend like I am then just seeing some of the street front stores gave you a bit of a thrill! Eeek!
SPEAKING OF WHICH….. NORDSTROM FLAGSHIP STORE!!!!! Fashion girl heaven!!! Probably one of the most beautiful Nordstrom’s I’ve been in to date. The product offerings were amazing so of course I grabbed a piece of memorabilia. Let’s be honest. A fashionista never really needs a reason to shop. LOL But I did grab a Ted Baker tote. Yayyyy! It was really useful this trip since I packed light (only my computer bag and my carry-on luggage) and didn’t bring a handbag so it carried all my materials and goodies while I was there.
Barney’s!!! Again a fashionista’s dream all within a square mile of each other!
The planning and walkability is definitely A-1! Everything was in walking distance. Pacific Place boasts both shopping, dining, and entertainment with an AMC attached! Again the beautiful buildings were everything to ME!
So getting back into the foodie scene! I really loved the Juicy Cafe because they are all about good vibes, good food (salads, wraps, bowls,) and even better smoothies and juices! I loved this quote and I went back later in the week for a green smoothie because I had a craving for one during the trip.
Truly about their natural food offerings. LOVE IT!!!
This is a Mexi-Cali bowl with eggs, broccoli, salsa, spinach, cabbage, black beans, avocado, cumin lime greek yogurt, and cheddar cheese over brown rice. Tasty and fresh!
This huge flower was sooo cute to me! I am not sure what it is but I love it so like the tourist I was it made the cut. It was off Union and 7th.
The Great Wheel of Seattle overlooking Elliot Bay! Breathtaking view!
Really cool statue and more amazing buildings! I definitely got my steps in on this trip! LOL
I love that they have a biking program! I love any city that has a biking program! Great planning and healthy lifestyle options! Woot woot! And as you can see some of the bikes are already gone so some other people love that they have a bike program as well!
Partial view of Smith Tower which was historically one of the tallest buildings in Seattle.
Full view of Smith Tower
A slightly blurred vision of a teepee in Pioneer Square and the Pioneer Building in the background.
A clock tower in Pioneer Square
Some beautiful stone pavement in Pioneer Square
Century Link Field
Look how colorful this street trolley is!
I love trees so these trees in Pioneer Square were everything to me!
This really dope statue in Pioneer Square!
Famous Pike Place Market! Got some great souvenirs #winning
I’m a sucker for a cute sign! This was the sign at this amazing crepe place we went to one day for lunch! They were super yummy!
Sooooo remember when I said that I loved the Juicy Cafe and their offerings? Green smoothie on deck!
The Roosevelt Seattle
We stumbled upon this really cool pizza place that allows you to put unlimited toppings on for $8.99 Eeek! It’s called Mod Pizza and if you are ever in the area it’s definitely worth the trip.
Here’s my pizza! Yum!
A view of Downtown Seattle from my hotel.
The original Starbucks! How cute and vintage is this?
Made it to the Space Needle!
Beautiful views from the Space Needle of Seattle
More Space Needle views
Space Needle Selfie with this lady who photobombed me and I started laughing after I realized it! I love a good photo bomb and her’s is super confident! LOL
Selfie that represented what this trip was about… working and WERKING! Woot woot!
Beautiful sunset overlooking Pike Place Market
I definitely enjoyed myself in Seattle and could see myself going back for another visit! I saw a lot but there’s still so much I wanted to see. But there’s always next time! So till next time Washington… and the movie title was true to form because I was truly Sleepless in Seattle.
What are some hidden treasures that you’ve visited in Seattle? What are some of your favorite things to do in Seattle? Let me know, I would love to hear from you!
Life is full of moments where we are waiting in anticipation for something. Whether we are waiting for an appointment, our heart’s desires to be manifested, or simply in the checkout line at the grocery store. It can often be difficult to wait patiently as we live in a society that values instant gratification over the harvest from a good set of seeds that were planted and came into full bloom. But if we are to develop good character and be truly fruitful when we reach the point or place we are waiting on our attitude and disposition in the waiting room, is just as important as our attitude at the point our number is finally called or we receive what we’ve been praying, waiting for, and anticipating. If we wait for our circumstances to be ideal to walk in the fruits of the Spirit, are we truly living by faith or being led by our feelings?
I am a believer that gratitude and a good disposition attract beautiful experiences, energy, and blessings that God desires for our life, which are vital to our growth. Negativity and entitlement leave us wound up, bent out of shape, and just restless in the process of waiting and are sent as spiritual attacks to defeat you in the process of waiting. I believe that these attacks are sent to create despair, desperation, frustration, a sense of hopelessness, and in general attacks to derail you from your purpose and from walking in the full promises of God.
I get it, you want it now! You don’t want to wait. You’re frustrated, you’re over it, and you just want what you want without having to keep looking at the clock , trying to figure out when it will happen and how it will happen. I’ve been there myself and have some things that I’m like “Alright God, any day now”. But then the Holy Spirit checks me real quick like “Your life and my plans for it are greater than the time lines you set up for me and what you feel like you need. Continue to trust me and don’t rush ahead of me”.
You see what I am coming to realize as I continue waiting for the manifestation of some things I desire is that God is concerned with my character as he prepares me for my destiny and purpose. My spirit needs to be yielded to however God chooses to move no matter what that may or may not look like because it’s trusting God and not trying to force his hand but allowing everything to flow beautifully as he intended. He never intended for me to be anxious and for my focus to be on those temporal things but totally dedicated to Him and doing HIS WILL in my life.
So when I feel my emotions going off the rails or I am tempted to be impatient with the process I am comforted by the following scriptures:
Psalm 84:11 NLT
For the Lord God is our sun and shield. He gives us grace and glory. The Lord will withhold no good thing from those who do what is right.
Lamentations 3:25 KJV
The Lord is good unto them that wait for him, to the soul that seeketh him.
Psalm 37:7 KJV
Rest in the Lord, and wait patiently for him; fret not thyself because of him who prospereth in his way, because of the man who bringeth wicked devices to pass.
Hebrews 10:36 KJV
For ye have need of patience, that, after ye have done the will of God, ye might receive the promise.
Philippians 1:6 KJV
Being confident of this very thing, that he which hath began a good work in you will perform until the day of Jesus Christ.
Proverbs 13:12 KJV
Hope deferred maketh the heart sick: but when the desire cometh it is a tree of life.
Romans 8:25 NLT
But if we look forward to something we do not yet have, we must wait patiently and confidently.
Just a few but there are so many more jewels that help me get back on track when I am hanging on to waiting by a thread.
God is never going to forsake or fail us. He’s with us even in the waiting with tears streaming down our faces, frustration pangs in our hearts, very near to giving up. He’s there. Waiting for us to release and LET GO and allow his beautiful masterpiece to be weaved. Let’s commit our deadlines, our desire to control, and our impatient spirits to our loving Father and find true rest and the beauty of being about his business working willingly and being productive and joyfully full of hope despite the wait.
Be encouraged and don’t give up. The wait may be frustrating but God never disappoints and he always exceeds expectations no matter how long the wait for the PROMISE, for he already fulfilled the greatest promise through HIS SON. I can’t tell you when it will be over BUT I CAN guarantee you it will be WORTH IT!
If you’re single like me you’re probably used to the following narrative and questions:
” We need to hurry up and find you a husband”
” When you getting married?”
” You live alone, all by yourself? That doesn’t get lonely?”
” I know you got a boyfriend, a man or something”
And the list goes on……
For the most part, I take these comments and questions in stride because the majority of the time, they come from people who I am certain mean well but just want what they perceive is best for me.
But I am here today to state that my single life isn’t something I am DESPERATELY trying to shake free of nor is it some type of death sentence that I believe God unfairly punished me with until a significant other arrives. I am in love with the life that I am currently leading because I realize love and happiness starts with ME and spreads abroad and I’ve got a lot of things that I am passionate about and that God has placed in my hands to steward and tend to in THIS MOMENT.
Society has put us into a mode where as single individuals we are constantly bombarded with the idea that you haven’t arrived until you have a husband or wife, 2 and a half kids, and a house with a white picket fence and if you don’t…. WELL then you’ve clearly missed the mark. Or God doesn’t love you. Or you must have something wrong with you. But your worth comes from a lot more than just the mere notion of your marital status or what you’ve achieved in life. I’ve found that my worth is in Christ and in Christ alone and when I attempt to place it in anything else or look elsewhere for it then I always come up empty.
Don’t get me wrong I desire companionship and REAL LOVE. And there will definitely be a time to be married to an amazing man that adds to the amazing life that I already have and pour our love and Christ’s love into our offspring. There will be a time to build a beautiful life as a great mother and wife and carry out my individual and collective purpose with my husband that God placed me on this Earth for. Those are roles that I believe are so honorable and beautiful and God graces each individual for. But that’s not the entirety of who I am and desire to be. Both of those roles take great preparation and maturity to truly serve in the capacity that I believe God creates them for .
And what better time to prepare and love my life then right now in this very moment? Whatever issues I was dealing with as a single woman don’t magically disappear when I get married. If I don’t use this beautiful time right now to love myself, find myself and the things I love, and truly appreciate my own identity I may make the mistake of idolizing my future blessings of marriage and children. As a result I may also lose my sense of identity and wholeness misusing the gifts God has given me to steward in the long run.
I’ve also been a single woman who’s been in the WRONG relationships. I’ve known what it feels like to lay next to someone and have your very worth and being taken for granted and to be greatly undervalued. I’ve known what it feels like when the very things you do for someone are not GOOD ENOUGH and neither are you. I’ve felt hurt and pain and sense of being lost due to being in the wrong relationships and not being able to truly hear from God.
I no longer desire those things for myself, thanks be to God and his great sense of deliverance and freedom. I am content to enjoy my single life until God orchestrates a meeting with a man worthy of who and what I am as a person. A man who is not threatened by those things but encourages and breathes life into those things as I do the same for him. (talk about a beautiful God honoring partnership) And I say that in the most humblest terms possible.
The next RELATIONSHIP I enter into will be intentional and it will be to a man who honors the God I serve, me, my womanhood, my accomplishments, the love I give and all the wonderful gifts and talents that I will bring to our relationship.
Until then I am excited to:
- Grow deeper and stronger in my intimate relationship with God and be about my Father’s business.
- Learn from healthy and happy married couples what it takes to sustain a God filled marriage with a purpose filled partner.
- Travel! (woot woot)
- Learn to live fearlessly and bold and walking in faith
- Try new foods and cook new recipes
- Chase my dreams and make my career exactly what I want it to be with God’s discernment and wisdom
- Eat cereal for dinner if I feel like it (lol)
- Stretch out in my bed
- Dance around my apartment
- Sleep in
- Building amazing friendships
- Spend time with friends and family and fostering and growing those relationships
- Serve in my community
- Check out local treats and restaurants (yay! fun! )
- Workout as much as my little body can stand
- Make random trips anywhere
- Tinker with starting a business
- Write books and blogs and whatever else God puts on my heart
- Splurge guilt free on my heart’s desires
- Come and go as I please
- Read books, learn, grow, become a better woman FOR ME
- Move across the country or around the world
- Go wherever God may be calling me to serve his people
- Last but not least live my life abundantly as that is what Jesus died for me to do
I challenge you if you are in a relationship that in your heart you know you shouldn’t be in or has you living below the life God intended for you, (short of your marriage because you in that thang till death do us part lol) I encourage you to examine whether you can truly live the divine life God intended you to with this person or if you are operating out of a place of loneliness, desperation, or boredom. I’ve been there and desperation will only detour you to dead ends. Trust the process, grow, learn, take care of yourself, figure yourself out, find out what you’re called to do and GO DO IT! Your life doesn’t start when you get a ring on your finger or your marital status changes, it starts every morning God breathes fresh breath into your body. Get busy! You never know who God may be using you to impact.
And my my, what a special thing when you do encounter your future spouse (if God has placed that as a strong desire in your heart I believe and stand in agreement with you that he will honor it) if you’ve been busy enjoying your life and growing in God excelling in those gifts and talents we’ve all been blessed with.
So go enjoy your wild, fabulous, beautiful and blessed single life! It’s so worth it!
As a part of living a healthier lifestyle and just a goal of trying out new recipes, I took some of my spare time last night and incorporated a new turmeric milk recipe into my arsenal of recipes and added a new flavor to my infused water.
Here is a picture of the results :
I chopped up about 3-6 lemon wedges, 7-9 cucumber slices, and added a tsp of ground ginger, and just some good ol’ H20. Store overnight in fridge for maximum infusion flavor and enjoy!
A cup of vanilla almond milk, a tbsp of cinnamon and nutmeg, and a tsp of raw organic sugar cane. Shake well for about 2 min to ensure all ingredients are well mixed. You can either warm up the milk or drink it cold. I warmed it up and it tasted absolutely delicious. I am trying to replace my caffeine fix for coffee with herbal teas and other warm drink recipes. This recipe came in handy just in time and I didn’t even have any caffeine crashes without coffee and this had a nice smooth, spicy but sweet taste. You can adjust the recipe as you see fit. It will come out a bright yellow color, even though from my picture it appears a warm brown. #lightingprobs
Both turmeric and infused water have natural detox and anti-inflammatory properties so it’s even better that these drinks taste great and are great for you!
What are some of your favorite health food drinks or smoothies? Let me know, I would love to hear from you!
As I am thinking over my personal fitness journey, it has definitely been just that. A journey. But I haven’t regretted a thing and I continue to push myself to new levels and depths each time I step into the gym, hop on a cardio machine, pick up some weights, join a new fitness class, and push myself to depths that I never would have imagined that I could. I’ve watched my body and confidence transform, not just from the outside transformation but just the mental renewal of doing things that I never thought possible or never dreamed of doing.
These past couple of days have been nothing short of awesome as I was a little nervous that I was beginning to lose muscle on my journey but it turns out those muscles were only hiding. Lol. Anyone on a fitness journey who has had gains before knows the exact feeling I am feeling right now when you realize you maintained your gains and are still developing new muscle tone, definition and endurance. It’s thrilling and it’s amazing.
I am super excited just to be back in the gym and back in a gym flow because I feel the previous weeks when I’ve gone, my mind hasn’t been fully there. I will attribute that to possibly being slightly mentally cluttered and pulled in various directions. The past few days I’ve been increasing my weights in between sets to make sure that the tone I’ve developed is maintained and can grow so I am going to try to chronicle just the different phases here as well as anything I believe will be relevant to this topic on here as well.
I think my diet also had a huge part to play in my excitement level too. (If I’m honest I wasn’t fueling it the way I needed to be and was having a few binge moments here and there that I personally were derailing me as far as having the desire and motivation to reach my goals)
What are some fitness goals you would like to achieve? How is your fitness journey going? What are the things you are learning? What are you loving and looking to improve on? I would love to hear from you!
I’m a little late posting this but I just was thinking how there is nothing quite as sweet as winding down from a busy and packed week at work. #workinggirlchronicles
I think often times we (myself included) are so wired to believe that everyday should be bustling with activity of some sort, that we forget how wonderfully fabulous, and necessary actually doing NOTHING can really be. It’s freeing, it’s salacious, it’s inviting and it’s a vital part of self-care just to be able to get away from it all, and be able to attune to your own thoughts and desires into what is actually good, healthy, and beneficial for you and your soul and body. And can I say I truly indulged in my NOTHING Saturday. I know the next couple of weekends I have coming up will be jam packed with activity so I NEEDED to just unwind and let loose and RELAX.
My greatest desire all week was just to lounge around in my sweats and a tank top once the weekend hit. Friday night I got a real craving for breakfast but I was so out of it I could only find the energy to have a bowl of cereal (yayyy for Cinnamon Toast Crunch) and hit the hay. But that desire stayed with me all night so I was like why not turn this into an all out lazy Saturday complete with a breakfast I normally wouldn’t have time to enjoy during the week? So that brings us to where we currently are. My fabulous personal version of breakfast in bed complete with a scrambled egg and potato veggie bowl, green smoothie and watching Breakfast at Tiffany’s. Directly following this, I had a wonderfully rejuvenating mid-morning nap and munched on some snacks and just lounged around my apartment.
What are some of your fabulous ways to wind down from your week? I would love to hear from you!
Here it goes again. That little pesky voice that always undermines every SINGLE thing you do. “You probably shouldn’t eat that” “You’re not enough for….” ” You’ll never…” ” You might need to lose or gain weight” ” Why can’t you be more like…..” And the list and go on. While a little self reflection definitely allows you to assess whether you are actually moving forward to those things that are vital for you to accomplish, too much introspection can be nothing but a perfect recipe for disaster and blows to your self-esteem, self-worth and self-image. A plain old sneaky culprit of self hate.
Here a few quick tips to encourage kindness to yourself and embrace the fact that you are a wonderfully worth individual who can and WILL manifest all the amazing things you are working hard for.
Actually celebrate yourself and eliminate all the negative self speeches and talk
Have you ever realized that it’s super easy to point out and celebrate all the amazing things you love about other people but extremely hard to highlight all the things you love about you? Take some time each day to love on yourself and be excited, proud, and motivated about all the amazing things you have done, are doing, and will do. There’s going to be enough negativity attempting to invade your head space, and pull on your energy without you adding to it. Make a physical list of all the reasons why you are amazing, deserving, and enough, post them somewhere you can see them, and speak those affirmations to yourself until they become reality to you. Because they are real and most of the stuff you are thinking that’s negative isn’t. Additionally, evaluate whether there are certain things you are allowing in be it people, places, shows, things you read or ingest that are contributing to those feelings of low self worth. Evaluate and remove or replace accordingly.
Evaluate whether that negative thinking is true, kind, or positive
As I stated earlier, sometimes self honesty is needed to get to where we want to go and figure out what’s keeping us from getting there. However, I honestly believe we sometimes don’t take enough time to asses whether all the thoughts we are having are true, lovely, kind, or positive and if they even are reflective of our true identity. Often those thoughts tend to be reflective of things we’ve picked up along the way, and CHOSEN to believe about ourselves. You can always choose your thoughts and if a thought doesn’t line up with your goals, energy, and what you are trying to manifest, just reject it and send it on its way.
Cut yourself some slack and KEEP GOING
Rome wasn’t built in a day and you won’t be either. Give yourself a break sometimes. Why undermine yourself and all your hard work because it’s not to the point or vision you desire? You’re well on your way as long as you keep going and don’t give up. Keep dreaming, keep working, keep believing, keep loving yourself through the process, and be proud of who you are and who you’re on the way to becoming! Every day indeed won’t be beautiful or Instagram worthy, but celebrate each little accomplishment and remember there’s purpose on your life, a pulse in your wrist, and breath in your lungs, so you might as well roll up those sleeves because there’s work to be done!
The only way that work stops being valid and far from completion is by listening to a voice that says all the reasons you can’t instead of all the strengths and victories that say you can! You’re wonderful, you’re here, you’re powerful, you’re enough, and that’s that!