If you wait on this world to tell you what you’re worth and affirm you, you’re going to always be on a whirlwind roller coaster of emotions based off of others affirmations and beliefs for you. If you affirm yourself then any other opinions are just icing on the cake and the not the cake itself. This isn’t about puffing yourself up with false confidence but really being able to do the work, show up the way you truly desire and is best in the world, and living the life that God purposed for you.
Hey guys!! I love winters in Florida because it’s the one time I can wear fabulous winter pieces such as blazers, cute long sleeve shirts, boots, and some other pieces! I really love the pieces that I got a chance to wear recently to work for winter. Not only were they fabulous they were extremely comfy.
Anyone that knows me knows I am a bit of a girlie girl and I love adding a little bit of pizazz to my work wear and to jazz up my work week/ day.
Top: Ralph Lauren. I love a good button down. I bought this a few years back from Macy’s and I love how this top is wrinkle free so it’s a great for pairing with different pieces and it’s pink and is one of my favorite colors so yay!
Skirt: Choies.com I just love this skirt because you can dress it up or down and it’s perfect for any occasion whether for a formal occasion or to add a layer of fun to work wear. I love iridescents and I love pops of color.
Pumps: Kate Spade. I loved these shoes the minute I got them. They are pink glitter and are so much fun to pair with jeans or a dressy top and add a dash of fabulousness to every thing you pair it with.
Jewelry: Kate Spade aurora borealis studs which are my most absolute faves. Bracelets are a mix of Alex and Ani and Bourbon and Boweties.
Top: H&M from about 7 years ago. I love this blazer because it’s so structured, functional, and professional looking. And it’s two toned! Yessss for color blocking!
Skirt: Choies.com I love this skirt because I love a pop of color and spices up your neutrals and earth tones if you choose to wear them with a more subdued tones.
Boots: Ralph Lauren. I love these boots because even though they are a riding style boot they go perfectly with fitted pants, pencil skirts, and jeans and they easily add a touch of flair to whatever you pair them with.
What are some of your favorite winter wear items? What pieces make you feel amazing, confident, and ready to conquer your work day/week? What’s your go to staples during the winter that liven up your wardrobe in the colder months? Leave me a comment below! I love to hear from you!
I am so grateful for this blogging journey. This month marks my 1 year anniversary since embarking on what has been a beautiful experience. With that in mind, I am looking forward to all that 2018 will bring and the amazing things I will be a part of. I want to say thank you to each person that has followed my journey thus far and welcome to those who will join me this year. I am really looking forward to 2018. Why you ask? 2017 was hard and stretched me in every way possible. Mentally. Physically. Emotionally. Spiritually. Just the whole 9. There were so many moments where I was just ready to give up on it all. I was exhausted, burnt out, and was consistently looking at God like ” Okay what gives? What lesson/s am I supposed to be learning from all these things happening and seemingly happening all at once?” I wasn’t sure what to expect for 2018 but I was holding steadfast to my faith but I now know looking back with hindsight it was God’s grace and love that brought me through. Some of my darkest days, my hardest, saddest, unbearable times riddled with nights of anxiety, insomnia, and days battling depression and not knowing or quite understanding why a lot of my days felt like a longer remake of Ground Hog’s Day.
I knew God was doing something in me and hadn’t left me but I just couldn’t make sense of it all.
Then it hit me The Holy Spirit tapped me on my shoulder and was like ” Hey you’re carrying on a lot of things I never meant for you to carry, and definitely not on your own” I knew God kept giving me fresh breath in my lungs DAILY because someone somewhere needed what I had to offer. I had a purpose that I hadn’t yet realized. Someone somewhere needed the new strength that I’d grown through a very tumultuous year. And I couldn’t give up on myself or my dreams and heart’s desires because they hadn’t materialized yet or be taken under by the cares of this life and neither can you.
So I am here to share and encourage you to let go in 2018 anything that keeps you from becoming your best self. I’m definitely into numerology and I realized that 2017 (the number 7) was the number of completion and God unbeknownst to me at the time was completing a lot of things in me through a very interesting molding process. On the flip side of that 2018 (the number 8) is a year of new beginnings. Beginnings cannot truly begin without letting go of something and certain things having a proper ending or closure.
Here are some of the things I am letting go of in 2018:
- I am letting go of the idea of letting go. No matter what I face I will remain a resilient woman committed to moving ahead and keeping my faith and the hope that that produces close to my heart.
- I am letting go of regrets. I spent a lot of time in 2017 being unnecessarily critical of myself for all the things that I wasn’t instead of celebrating everything that I was becoming and all that I already was.
- I am letting go of the weight of fear, anxiety, depression and the pain associated with such and embracing the abundant life that I know God has prepared for me and has given me full access to.
- I am letting go of overthinking and analyzing and trying to control every outcome and allowing all the good God has in store for me to just naturally flow to me.
- I am letting go of unhealthy expectations, thought patterns, and beliefs.
- I am letting go of people, places, and energies that I have outgrown realizing that as I approach life with a hands open mentality I will be able to receive and give all that is intended for me to give and receive.
- I am letting go of disappointments and understanding that they are all a part of God’s divine direction and plan.
- I am letting go of anything that keeps me from being the complete and whole woman that God intended for me to be from the point of my creation.
- I am completely letting go and allowing myself to be free and to walk in that freedom.
- I am letting go of diminishing actions, words, and beliefs and celebrating all that is amazing about me and the life I’ve been gifted.
- I am letting go of replaying past pains and hurts and staying stuck because I allow those things to keep me glued to a moment or instance or incident.
- I am letting go of defining myself with any measuring stick that does not align with God’s Word and truth about me being fearfully and wonderfully made.
- I am letting go of my life and putting it back in God’s hands, the true masterpiece curator.
I pray that this inspires you to keep going and to never give up on yourself because there are such amazing plans in store for you! I want to encourage you today that when you let go of the version of your life you struggle and strive to make fit you give God free access to make and mold your life into the masterpiece he planned it to be long ago!
What are some things you are letting go of? I would love to hear from you!
Hi guys! I love dressing up during the week because it just adds a little oomph to my work motivation and environment, puts me in a good mood, and makes me feel good inside. And of course it gives me a chance to take some amazing selfies. Here are a few of my work week outfit highlights from this week:
I love a good set of fall colors to spruce up the day experimenting with color palettes so I love playing with bolds, prints, and solids as well as various textures.
Ruffled top: Not sure where I got this but it was a gift from my sister a little while ago and I just love pieces that you can dress up or down.
Jacket: NY and CO about 5 years ago. I love that it’s structured and I can mix and match it with so many pieces and that it has held up so well over the years.
Pants: Bebe about a year ago. I love the color and how fun these pants are. They are super comfy and they add a pop of color and sophistication to whatever I pair it with it.
Shoes: Bloomingdales. com. These are Vince Camuto and they are so fun, girly, and fabulous and for the most part very comfortable.
Accessories: A mixture of Alex and Ani, Bourbon and Boweties, and a wonderful charm bracelet I inherited from my grandmother.
Dress: I actually just got this dress not too long ago from one of my favorite boutiques, Touch Dolls. I absolutely love how fabulous and sophisiticated, affordable, and fun their pieces are. This houndstooth dress is versatile enough to go from day to night and is meant to be worn off the shoulder but since I was going into work I pulled the shoulders up and made it work. It’s definitely a flattering piece for any shape.
Shoes: Michael Kors pumps with gold metal studs that I bought from Dillards about 3 years ago on clearance. One of my favorite pairs of heels.
Accessories: A collection of pieces from Alex and Ani, Bourbon and Boweties, and a braclelet that I inherited from my grandmother.
What are some ways you love to spice up your work week wardrobe? What are some of your favorite pieces? How do you achieve a chic and sophisticated look for work? Leave me a message in the comments below! I would love to hear from each and everyone of you!
This past weekend I had a wonderful opportunity to attend the Epcot Food and Wine Festival with my mommy and sister. Talk about amazing! I am a Florida girl and visit Disney quite a bit but had never experienced it quite like that. So much good food and so many good drinks! Overall a cultural and sensory party and a great way to spend time to with loved ones. I will definitely be returning! The only recommendation I would make is to get there as early as possible so that you can enjoy all that all of the continents has to offer.
After paying for admission you can either buy the gift card and load on the desired amount you want to spend, buy a sampler set of 8 tickets and in your party do a sampling of everything that sounds appetizing or you can buy everything a la carte or a mix of the three.
Now here comes the highlights of my trip!
It was so much fun literally eating and drinking around the world, I literally rolled myself out to my car. If you get the chance definitely check it out! It is quite the dedicated foodie dream!
Hi ya”ll! Can you believe that it’s already November? I feel like the year flew by super fast but I am very grateful to have encountered so many wonderful souls in this period of time.
As always because I have a bit of wanderlust and I discovered yet another amazing brunch spot here in Jacksonville. It is Casa Marina one of the oldest and most historical hotels in Florida and America. How cool is that? Not only does this place boast some amazing architecture but also some amazing food and views. It’s an all you can eat brunch with a prime rib carving station, omelette station, eggs benedict over fried green tomatoes, an assortment of cold salads, seafood paella, herb roasted chicken, garlic mashed potatoes, shrimp cocktail, a tropical fruit display, a yummy dessert area, and endless champagne, mimosas, and poinsettias as well as house wines. Truly a Sunday Funday spot. And all under $35! Can we say awesome?!?!?!?!
The food is fresh, yummy, and flavorful and the service is impeccable. My servers always made sure I was well attended to and the vibe is so relaxed with a very beachy vibe and a view of the Atlantic Ocean via their balcony.
I will definitely be back very soon! Definitely worth every penny! I will caution those who are true foodies to pace yourself because you will want to try everything and you just want to make sure you don’t fill yourself to the brim like I did. 🙂
I love fall for the fall flavors, colors, and opportunity to experiment with new recipes paired with favorite foods. Carrot fettuccine is one of my favorite recipes to prepare in that it’s so easy, fun, and healthy and it gives you a great way out to get you to have your kids eat their veggies out there to all the mamas who have a struggle getting their kiddos to eat their veggies. You can even include your kids in on the activities by having them help you with the fettuccine pieces whether you choose to use a spiralizer to cut them up or with a knife.
My recipe was relatively simple. I just used some of my favorite spices (salt, pepper, garlic powder, and onion powder) and sauteed other vegetables and cut up about 2 whole carrots into shreds that resembled fettucine or thinner versions of carrot sticks. And because I am an eggplant lover I added some diced eggplant to the recipe as well to add another portion of protein and some different flavor profile and taste to the recipe. I then added a tomato sauce with a mushroom to my veggie sautee and let it simmer to absorb the flavor. This was my 2nd or 3rd time making this particular recipe but it was so yummy, cozy, and filling.
What are some of your favorite fall foods that are healthy but still delicious? I would love to hear from you! Leave me a comment or message below!
This has probably been one of the hardest blogs I’ve decided to write, partly because I rationalized with myself for the longest on how I would write it and whether it was even worth writing. Truthfully, I wrestled with God and myself because I didn’t think I would have the strength or emotional ability to write this. But then, God got me together real quick and made me realize that this life is so much greater than me, and my feelings but it’s about helping others through their journeys, especially when I’ve been in that place myself and am still here to tell the story to someone else.
This journey doesn’t really have a beginning, middle, or end and that is mainly because emotional healing doesn’t have a definitive end or beginning. Only the person experiencing those emotions can say when they are ready to transition from the very things, people, places, and experiences that caused them pain. But here I am and here we go.
Describing this particular place in my life, a scripture and quote come to mind and proved to be the very writings on my own personal wall of life experiences.
Proverbs 27:6 NLT
Faithful are the wounds of a friend; but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful.
“In the end we will remember, not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends” – Dr. Martin Luther King Jr
This became painfully relevant for me as of the last couple of months. I greatly value my spiritual relationship and have been making a concerted effort to cultivate a very intimate and personal relationship with God. I had finally reached a place in my faith and within my faith community that I was open, loving, ready to spread goodness and joy to others. I was experiencing the fullness of life that I had heard so much from others, was the foundation of their burgeoning relationship with God. Life was far from perfect in my own assertion, but I was confident and ready to face it with my faith guiding me every step of the way.
Then life came at me head on. Unexpectedly. Without warning. Ripping away everything that I had considered a constant and something or someone I could depend on. I felt burdened by the weight of my own expectations for myself and what life was currently producing for me. Although I understood that God still remained supreme in my life and was in control, I was just trying to make sense of things spinning relentlessly out of control. While I understood his will and purpose for my life, I struggled with him about some of the events I was experiencing, and if they were actually turning out for my good. There were few people who could empathize with the sense of failure that created in my head, and my steady push to do better for myself. Those who could empathize were out of physical reach and supported me emotionally. But it still was a tough period to travel through, especially with what felt like uncertainty hanging over my head daily, and weighing on my heart even more intensely.
In addition to dealing with my own issues, and doing my best to stay positive and keep going, keeping the faith, and believing the best, my grandmother passed. Anyone who knows me knows that my grandmother and my maternal grandparents were near and dear to my heart. In the midst of trying to hold it together for my mother and help her remain strong, I started looking to something that helped me keep going in the toughest of times: my faith and my faith community.
God NEVER FAILED ME. NOT ONCE. I began to understand, appreciate, expand and look at our relationship in a new light. I began to see him as the loving, faithful, merciful, gracious, good Father that I had read that he could be in my Bible.
However, much to my surprise, my faith community much like all human beings will do from time to time, left me with a mix of varying emotions, all with some degree of pain attached to them. The long and short of it is that I felt that after hours of spending time together, discussing faith concepts, praying for one another, breaking bread with, feeling loved, and what I believed at the time was acceptance. Then this eerie shift happened.
I suddenly felt nothing but rejection, abandonment, disappointment, and unmet expectations in a time that I really wanted, needed, and hoped for more but got less than I ever could have expected. I expected and waited carefully and quite patiently for someone to show something more than a shallow expression of forced concern but it never came. It was like a dagger was driven into my heart. I didn’t quite understand why people who claimed to love me never asked, “How are you? Do you need something, anything? Are you mentally holding up? How can I be there and walk through this with you?” It hurt me, in ways that I never imagined that I could hurt. I was so confused because while all the interactions felt real in the midst of doing life with my community, my recent reality had me questioning whether I was tripping, whether I imagined it, or if it was all fake. A mere mirage. Smoke and mirrors.
It was so lonely, heart wrenching, and heart breaking, just because I had so many unanswered questions. I didn’t understand why a community that I had given myself tirelessly to, took a position of indifference and a laissez faire demeanor towards me. I kept racking my brain to figure out where the breakdown happened, and what I could have done differently. And I allowed myself to feel this hurt and walk through these emotions. But after feeling terribly, I decided to not unpack and live there. In the midst of all this, I learned and discovered a few wonderful things.
- I learned a new level of compassion I probably wouldn’t have realized for others going through difficult times
- I realized who was in my corner and fostered a new level of respect and gratitude for them. I even fostered some new unexpected relationships with people who stepped up and filled the gap in ways that I never could have anticipated during this difficult time.
- I began to look at my relationship with God in a new light and realized that he was not like people and still wanted me to spread his love, compassion, concern, and joy as well as, message of redemption to others.
- Everyone has a different capacity to love and to not hold others accountable and feel like there is a fault in you, because others can not meet the level of love you expect from them. Let God’s love be the cup that you receive from and then pour into others.
- Don’t create expectations for others until they have demonstrated that they are actually capable of achieving them. Unmet expectations can breed frustration and therefore you can break your own heart.
- In difficult times, cling to God like crazy and he will fulfill your needs and give you the strength to endure and heal your broken heart.
- Learn to forgive yourself and others, especially with the apologies that you often times will never receive. It’s more for you, than it is for them.
- Keep trying and keep going. Everyone isn’t going to hurt you. Even those who hurt you may not be doing it out of malicious intent but just out of an inability to emote in an appropriate way that you need them to, so accept that and release it.
- The pain will stop, you will get past this moment, and you will be able to assist someone else and let them know that they will get through this as well and reassure them that they are not alone.
While I am not 100% assured of where this leaves me at this time, I can say that I am learning to walk with God through this period and allow him to lead me to a place of full restoration and finality surrounding this situation. I pray that God helps those who feel like a man or woman without a country due to not having a reliable faith community to turn to, and that God mends those broken relationships. I pray he also continues to turn the hearts of his people towards true brotherhood and sisterhood to their fellow brothers and sisters, both in good and tumultuous times.
I pray this ministers to someone who is going through a difficult period and feels alone. I pray that God covers you in his unconditional love and that you remember and are reassured that God is close to the broken hearted and crushed in spirit. I believe that by making myself vulnerable and transparent someone can be guided from the pain of darkness and into the beauty of light.
I would love to hear from you and hear your comments or thoughts so please feel free to comment or leave me a message below!