It’s been a few weeks but I’ve been a little busy little bee and have been out exploring my world and I have so many wonderful things to share with you so here we go! I visited Epcot for another splendid festival and magical time! This time around it was for the 2018 Epcot International Flower and Garden Festival. Let me just say if you love sensory details and being outside or are an outdoorsy type, this is a dream come true. I enjoyed every minute of it from beautiful flower and garden displays to Disney infusing a little magic into each area as only Disney can! And as with every Epcot festival plenty of yummy treats and drinks to spare! This festival puts you right in the mood for spring with all of the beautiful flowers and especially with all the recent cooler temperatures we’ve been experiencing this spring. Awesome start to the season!
Such a fun way to kick off the spring season and so much amazing artistry showcased! What is your favorite way to enjoy the Flower and Garden Festival? Favorite exhibits or areas? Special memories? Leave me a comment, I would love to hear from you!
I’m wildly optimistic and positive. Most times, this serves me very well especially in terms of needing perseverance and motivation when life has its way of throwing challenges my way, that are arguably essential and pivotal to my growth as a young woman. In some instances, especially more romantic instances, my wild optimism makes me view some potential suitors in a light that often times may not be the deserving light leading me down one less fulfilling version of Alice’s plunge down the illustrious Rabbit Hole.
One thing I’ve learned about myself is that when I care about others is that I have the ability to conveniently not notice character flaws and other red flags that are going to be vital to not having my heart be vulnerable and open to people who should have never gotten past hello. As someone, who is loving, giving, and truly looks to see the best in others and tries in most instances to see the positive in EVERYTHING, even giving people the benefit of the doubt beyond the FLASHING DOUBT, I’ve learned that creating prototypes out of people who never had intentions on fulfilling those expectations or standards is a dangerous way to LEAD YOURSELF ON and leave you picking up the pieces of your shattered alternate reality.
By no means am I here to spout war stories of bitterness, broken spirits, or disillusion. Quite the contrary, as I previously stated, I am ever the optimist and still am equally as excited and hopeful for a love that complements the love I have and am continuously developing for myself. But I am here to share (which is the whole reason I love this space and started this blog) the true problem with blindly falling for potential and the prototype.
I absolutely advocate for each person who desires love for themselves one day to have an idea as to what their ideal mate encompasses spiritually, mentally, emotionally etc. But don’t become attached to anything other than the non-negotiables of that image. Why you ask? It’s simple. I love “Prototype” as much as the next hip hop head who grew up in the 90’s and early 2000’s loving all things OutKast. It’s chock full of hope, romanticism, and all the feel good feelings of finding/encountering your true love, “the one”, and your soul mate. But prototypes are better in virtual reality than real life, and often waiting on potential to manifest can leave you trying to figure out it never manifested and little more than mythical fairy dust in your hands and a sense of disappointment in your heart.
Loving the prototype and potential makes you blind to when you’re compromising because this person looks good on paper, but doesn’t touch your soul in a way that’s meaningful, beneficial and impactful. Loving a prototype and their potential makes you lose sight of the fact that you love, like, care for, and are giving very vital, intimate parts to this person while they are just as unconcerned as can be about meeting you where you’re at and being fully invested in you and your development because they only care and are concerned for their development or are only interested in you when you can serve their development. Loving the idea of prototype and potential makes you look at all this person can be and conveniently allows you to forget all that they are (good and bad) and assess whether you even love or like this person at all.
You see, if people were meant to be androids or robots, loving them and having relationships independent of the good, bad, character flaws, idiosyncracies, mood swings, feelings, failures, and successes would be a lot more foolproof. But what kind of love is that? Loving people only when conditions are right or based upon created ideals crafted in the mind isn’t unconditional love at all.
So, the real problem in falling for potential and the prototype is that you deny yourself from loving a perfectly imperfect person, because you love the ideal of what can be versus the often harsh reality of what is. You can also miss out on encountering a perfectly imperfect person and allowing them the opportunity to meet what a prototype could never be, a perfectly original version of you. So go ahead and have your standards and non-negotiables, but realize real people are who they are. Don’t attempt to change that.
In the famous words of Maya Angelou, “When someone shows you who they are, believe them.” If it isn’t what speaks to your highest self or aligns with who you are, let that go and allow them to be whoever they choose and need to be for who or whatever purpose or person they were created for. There is ABSOLUTELY NOTHING WRONG with someone/something not being for you and that doesn’t make the other person a villain either. If it aligns with your highest/ best self and values, and brings you joy, allow it to flow and be exactly what it’s going to be. It’s not a prototype, but you can definitely find a way to tiptoe to the sun and grow in love with a real live person who is willing to realize and be more than you ever imagined and satisfy your whole being in a way that awaiting on potential to manifest never could. And that’s something that’s worth being in love again for.
The phrase know your worth and add tax has become such a common phrase in culture and social media. We see it everywhere, we make mantras to forge our lives and live it but what does it really mean in actuality?
Society causes us to place worth and value in a lot of things: careers, money, status, desirability, followers, love, success, the list goes on. But if any of those things change, the very foundation of how worthy you feel as a person could come crumbling down right along with it. Yes, these are great accomplishments, and you should always be striving to become a better version of yourself than you were yesterday but you’re not a title, or what you do, or who does or doesn’t love you, or how many followers you have. YOU ARE YOU. And that level of value extends far beyond the tangible things that you can see, touch or feel. It goes deep down to the core of who you are as a person, your spirit, the things you’ve experienced and how it has shaped you, how you treat others, what energy you put out into the world and mostly HOW YOU SHOW UP IN THE WORLD.
Before we get into how you can know your worth and add luxury tax let’s look at what a luxury tax is. A luxury tax is a tax rate placed slightly above the standard tax rate and which tends to be a little more costly. So, why would you want to add a luxury tax to your own worth? To ensure that you’re always slightly beyond reach or require a little bit more for yourself than the baseline level of what is required. Essentially, what this ends up looking like is you don’t grant access to people, places, and opportunities, the energy that you have for anything that does not serve your greatest good, and align with your truest, most valuable self. This will save you time and energy from expending the best parts of yourself to things that are just not worthy.
Is this to say your life will always be this linear path where you never make a mistake or misstep? Heck no! Will you never NOT SETTLE EVER? You’re human so don’t give yourself that weighty responsibility of living this life of perfectionism. Let’s be honest, we’ve all been there. We accepted a job that we knew didn’t align with what our true purpose or calling is, we didn’t push for that extra set of coins at the negotiation table and now we beat ourselves up regularly (free yourself from that burden too), we allowed someone in a romantic situation to cloud our judgment as to whether or not they were the best partner for us and ignored our own needs, wants, and values in an effort to be accepted, validated, and affirmed. We often say we want one thing, but our actions say something completely different as it relates to living our best life etc,. The important thing is to acknowledge what didn’t align in your life, pray, forgive yourself and seek divine guidance and forgiveness as well.
So how do you get back on track with knowing your worth and adding luxury tax to live out the most fabulous version of your best life possible?
You establish what you’re worth from within and from God.
If you wait on this world to tell you what you’re worth and affirm you, you’re going to always be on a whirlwind roller coaster of emotions based off of others affirmations and beliefs for you. If you affirm yourself, then any other opinions are just icing on the cake, and the not the cake itself. This isn’t about puffing yourself up with false confidence, but really being able to do the work, show up the way you truly desire, and living the life that God purposed for you. Get yourself some affirmations you truly believe in and do the work until you see the results you desire.
2. Forgive yourself
You messed up. You settled, You tolerated. Something you did, didn’t represent the best you know you have to offer the world. Accept that. Forgive yourself. Start your healing process, and give yourself the grace and kindness to move forward. Don’t keep reliving and replaying the scenarios and hurt over and over in your head. Lift that burden off your shoulders, learn the lessons you need to learn from it, and be committed to carrying the lessons on with you into the next chapter of your life.
3. Figure out why you settled
Take some time out and really assess why you settled or didn’t really position yourself to be able to do the things you desired or were best for yourself. Be honest with yourself. Whether that means going to counseling/therapy, writing it out in a journal, having quiet time, etc. Whatever it takes get in tune with yourself, and figure out how you can be committed to knowing your worth and living a life that speaks that.
4. Walk in it
It’s probably the most simplistic of all the steps, but perhaps the most difficult to achieve. We often get stuck in either figuring out why we settled, or in the inability to forgive ourselves. Once you’ve done the assessment and the work, its time to move forward and just live what you learned. That’s what knowing your worth is truly all about, knowing what you’re worthy of in this life, and showing up in the world ready and willing to manifest it.
Pray that this blessed you! What are some ways you might have not known your worth? How did you come back from that? What are some tips you would give others? Let me know in the comments, I so love hearing from you all!
Can you believe that the month of February is almost over? We were just in January and now we are more than halfway through February on the cusp of March. How crazy is that? Time flies when you’re having fun!
These past couple of weeks have been a whirlwind but I am so excited to share my time at the Epcot International Arts Festival with you. I recently visited the Epcot International Arts Festival which ran from January 12th to February 19th. It was so cool to watch Spaceship Earth turn into a living palette of color, awesome food, performers/ artists, and visual displays. Truly a magically artistic time that at some point every one should partake in and that I am excited and grateful that I had the chance to enjoy.
Here are some highlights from my trip!
Some awesome posters from the Expo Hall where you could take arts classes, try out arts inspired hors d’oeurves, and enjoy some custom Disney inspired art
This was such an amazing festival! Epcot has an amazing way of organizing some awesome festivals that are fun for the entire family! What are some of your favorite ways to enjoy Epcot festivals? What is your favorite Epcot festival? What is your favorite Spaceship Earth moment or memory? Let me know! I would love to hear from you! Leave me a note in the comments!
Hey again guys! I had the amazing opportunity to go and get some great seafood in Ponte Vedra Beach a couple weeks back at the Palm Valley Fish Camp. Truly a one of a kind and delectable experience. Everything is made from scratch right when you order, it’s truly a hidden gem right off A1A and Palm Valley, and the seasonings and preparation are apparent and seasoned with love. This is a great spot to go and enjoy some great views and sit on their dock and enjoy an afternoon cocktail or wine on a quiet Sunday or lazy Saturday while ordering some great seafood and beautiful ambience.
This time around I ordered their signature shrimp and grits. By far some of the best, creamiest, melt in your mouth grits I’ve tasted EVER. And believe me when I say I’ve had a lot of grits in my lifetime. The shrimp tasted fresh and the grits are made with a white wine butter sauce and I believe a splash of bacon, tomatoes, and a few other secret herbs and spices. I was in a bit of rush on the day that I visited as I was in a bit of adventurist mode so I didn’t get a chance to stop and linger for too long but I know for sure I will definitely be back. I saw several other items on the menu that greatly peaked my interest and with their location being right off the water its guaranteed to be caught and served fresh.
What are some of your favorite local foodie spots for seafood and good eats? What are some hidden Jax gems you’ve come across? What are some of your favorite local Jax seafood spots and dishes? Leave me a comment or suggestion below! I would love to try it out, review and chat food with you!
Hey guys!! I love winters in Florida because it’s the one time I can wear fabulous winter pieces such as blazers, cute long sleeve shirts, boots, and some other pieces! I really love the pieces that I got a chance to wear recently to work for winter. Not only were they fabulous they were extremely comfy.
Anyone that knows me knows I am a bit of a girlie girl and I love adding a little bit of pizazz to my work wear and to jazz up my work week/ day.
Top: Ralph Lauren. I love a good button down. I bought this a few years back from Macy’s and I love how this top is wrinkle free so it’s a great for pairing with different pieces and it’s pink and is one of my favorite colors so yay!
Skirt: Choies.com I just love this skirt because you can dress it up or down and it’s perfect for any occasion whether for a formal occasion or to add a layer of fun to work wear. I love iridescents and I love pops of color.
Pumps: Kate Spade. I loved these shoes the minute I got them. They are pink glitter and are so much fun to pair with jeans or a dressy top and add a dash of fabulousness to every thing you pair it with.
Jewelry: Kate Spade aurora borealis studs which are my most absolute faves. Bracelets are a mix of Alex and Ani and Bourbon and Boweties.
Top: H&M from about 7 years ago. I love this blazer because it’s so structured, functional, and professional looking. And it’s two toned! Yessss for color blocking!
Skirt: Choies.com I love this skirt because I love a pop of color and spices up your neutrals and earth tones if you choose to wear them with a more subdued tones.
Boots: Ralph Lauren. I love these boots because even though they are a riding style boot they go perfectly with fitted pants, pencil skirts, and jeans and they easily add a touch of flair to whatever you pair them with.
What are some of your favorite winter wear items? What pieces make you feel amazing, confident, and ready to conquer your work day/week? What’s your go to staples during the winter that liven up your wardrobe in the colder months? Leave me a comment below! I love to hear from you!
I am so grateful for this blogging journey. This month marks my 1 year anniversary since embarking on what has been a beautiful experience. With that in mind, I am looking forward to all that 2018 will bring and the amazing things I will be a part of. I want to say thank you to each person that has followed my journey thus far and welcome to those who will join me this year. I am really looking forward to 2018. Why you ask? 2017 was hard and stretched me in every way possible. Mentally. Physically. Emotionally. Spiritually. Just the whole 9. There were so many moments where I was just ready to give up on it all. I was exhausted, burnt out, and was consistently looking at God like ” Okay what gives? What lesson/s am I supposed to be learning from all these things happening and seemingly happening all at once?” I wasn’t sure what to expect for 2018 but I was holding steadfast to my faith but I now know looking back with hindsight it was God’s grace and love that brought me through. Some of my darkest days, my hardest, saddest, unbearable times riddled with nights of anxiety, insomnia, and days battling depression and not knowing or quite understanding why a lot of my days felt like a longer remake of Ground Hog’s Day.
I knew God was doing something in me and hadn’t left me but I just couldn’t make sense of it all. Then it hit me The Holy Spirit tapped me on my shoulder and was like ” Hey you’re carrying on a lot of things I never meant for you to carry, and definitely not on your own” I knew God kept giving me fresh breath in my lungs DAILY because someone somewhere needed what I had to offer. I had a purpose that I hadn’t yet realized. Someone somewhere needed the new strength that I’d grown through a very tumultuous year. And I couldn’t give up on myself or my dreams and heart’s desires because they hadn’t materialized yet or be taken under by the cares of this life and neither can you.
So I am here to share and encourage you to let go in 2018 anything that keeps you from becoming your best self. I’m definitely into numerology and I realized that 2017 (the number 7) was the number of completion and God unbeknownst to me at the time was completing a lot of things in me through a very interesting molding process. On the flip side of that 2018 (the number 8) is a year of new beginnings. Beginnings cannot truly begin without letting go of something and certain things having a proper ending or closure.
Here are some of the things I am letting go of in 2018:
I am letting go of the idea of letting go. No matter what I face I will remain a resilient woman committed to moving ahead and keeping my faith and the hope that that produces close to my heart.
I am letting go of regrets. I spent a lot of time in 2017 being unnecessarily critical of myself for all the things that I wasn’t instead of celebrating everything that I was becoming and all that I already was.
I am letting go of the weight of fear, anxiety, depression and the pain associated with such and embracing the abundant life that I know God has prepared for me and has given me full access to.
I am letting go of overthinking and analyzing and trying to control every outcome and allowing all the good God has in store for me to just naturally flow to me.
I am letting go of unhealthy expectations, thought patterns, and beliefs.
I am letting go of people, places, and energies that I have outgrown realizing that as I approach life with a hands open mentality I will be able to receive and give all that is intended for me to give and receive.
I am letting go of disappointments and understanding that they are all a part of God’s divine direction and plan.
I am letting go of anything that keeps me from being the complete and whole woman that God intended for me to be from the point of my creation.
I am completely letting go and allowing myself to be free and to walk in that freedom.
I am letting go of diminishing actions, words, and beliefs and celebrating all that is amazing about me and the life I’ve been gifted.
I am letting go of replaying past pains and hurts and staying stuck because I allow those things to keep me glued to a moment or instance or incident.
I am letting go of defining myself with any measuring stick that does not align with God’s Word and truth about me being fearfully and wonderfully made.
I am letting go of my life and putting it back in God’s hands, the true masterpiece curator.
I pray that this inspires you to keep going and to never give up on yourself because there are such amazing plans in store for you! I want to encourage you today that when you let go of the version of your life you struggle and strive to make fit you give God free access to make and mold your life into the masterpiece he planned it to be long ago!
What are some things you are letting go of? I would love to hear from you!