Dating with Discernment: Navigating Landmines and Goldmines

 

 

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As a single woman navigating dating can be a lot like trying to tip toe over landmines in attempts to get to the place of the coveted gold mine a.k.a,  a relationship that is divine, healthy, and most of all happy and representative of the love that you release into the world. Often, the best way to reach that goal is to continually expect the best of potential and current suitors but keep a discerning eye out for those things that would normally pass right under the radar without thinking twice or blinking.

We’ve all been guilty of one time too many fighting with our God given instincts and nudges about how someone’s character fits into our life and lifestyle. God always sends us soft and sometimes loud signals like “Hey don’t pass go, don’t collect $200, this ain’t it” but sometimes we can be very headstrong, lonely, willing to compromise, too kind-hearted for our own good, too optimistic, etc. that those very characteristics prevent us from vetting people the way that we normally would.

I can remember an instance where I KNEW within my heart of hearts and God was dealing with me the entire time I was in this individual’s presence that he wasn’t for me but you know how that goes. LOL. If you are a type A personality or just extremely motivated, you are of the mind that there isn’t anything that you can’t make work. And you will FIND a way,  where there is a WILL. But the wondrous and beautiful thing about TRUE AND AUTHENTIC LOVE I’ve found is that you don’t have to work EXTREMELY hard at it, it naturally flows even in the working/workable moments.

But God kept dealing with me the entire time. From people in restaurants, stores, and other familiar places I would normally visit alone and receive a warm reception giving me odd looks , to just my general uncomfortableness about certain things that were happening or being said, to God literally not letting me get any rest with what I was doing.

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It was actually pretty hilarious looking at it in hindsight. But I didn’t actualize what was occurring until it occurred and I was completely 175% uncomfortable and out of sorts that I realized that I was wrestling with God (and not in a Jacob type of way to receive a welcome blessing) as well as wrestling with myself for a reality and future with people I knew that I wasn’t happy with in my present and couldn’t see a foreseeable future with.  I knew I had to get out and fast because my intrinsic values were being stepped upon and that is super important to me in building a relationship with ANYONE.

Discernment and keeping your eyes open and remaining sober-minded and prayerful can save you a lot of time from mismatching yourself with people who should have never made it past “hello how are you?”.  It can save you the heartache of injuring yourself with individuals whose goals and visions are misaligned with your own and give you the soundness of mind and pureness of heart to be able to enjoy the goldmine of a divine, healthy, and happy relationship instead of expending great energy on fruitless pursuits when that beautiful relationship you desire manifests.

As for me in my personal landmines, God’s protection and discernment has kept me pretty well recently although I’ve been slightly hard-headed. So how do you use discernment while on the journey to cross paths with your life counterpart?

  1. Remain open but objective. Yes, this individual isn’t perfect and neither are you. However, making excuses for people’s behavior or accepting the bare minimum of your standards as “it’s  as good as it gets” is settling and not operating in your true and authentic self.
  2. Trust your peace or lack thereof. Listen to what the person is and isn’t saying and then watch for actions that align with those things. If you find yourself cringing, feeling like a smaller version of your best self, or just in general a check in your spirit DON’T IGNORE THAT! You know what you need and that’s your spirit leading you to it or away from things or people and places that are not it or in alignment with it.
  3. Don’t force it. Sometimes incompatibility, rejection, and disappointment leave you with a weird mix of emotions but tap into those emotions, do the work with God to heal, and keep going. You don’t won’t just anyone in your life but someone that is going to complement you and the divine purpose you were created for.
  4. Lack of compatibility doesn’t make you or the other person a bad person. Just a set of persons that are not right for each other in this specific relationship dynamic. Be true to yourself and be honest with that other person and let them go to find what best suits them and vice versa.
  5. Go on dates or situations that allow you to see what this person is like in real world, true life situations. This way it’s not just long stares, candlelit dinners, walks on the beach and romance, but you truly unraveling this individual’s character to really see how they operate and if you can truly live  with and love this reality for forever if they NEVER change or PROGRESS beyond this point. Potential is beautiful but it’s just that without kinetic action behind it.  We often fall victim to believing in potential or the idea that this person can change (and people can) but it has to be a personal choice with the assistance of divine intervention.
  6. Find people who you TRUST and who LOVE YOU and will keep you accountable about what you desire out of love and life and allow them to interact with this person. Yes, at the end of the day our loved ones do not dictate who we partner with but who knows you better than them? Besides, they aren’t looking at your love with rose-colored glasses and could possibly be onto something that you’ve missed.
  7. Grow in love with the person and not the ideal that that person represents. If that person is stripped of all the trappings of this world, they are left with their raw character and personality which will guide the relationship.
  8. Know your deal breakers and be unapologetic for/about them. What’s problematic for one individual seems like a walk in the park for another.
  9. Last but not least, HAVE FUN knowing that you are equipped with everything you need to cross paths with another amazing being and that until you find them your self-love and self-worth will be your guide!

If you’ve recently landed on a love landmine, that’s OKAY! I am sending you love, light, and God’s peace and blessings! But keep going! Pick yourself up, give yourself time to heal, and get back to living your fabulous life.  Your story is still being written by a master Creator!

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OOTD: Mixing bold colors and prints in preparation for summer

Hi ya’ll!  It kinda feels like its been super long since I came on here and just shared some things and I’ve missed blogging and you guys so I am going to share my outfit of the day from a couple weeks ago.

With summer on the horizon and temperatures rising I felt that it was only right to start some experimenting with bold colors and prints and it just feels right and summery and happy and fun!

I love a good skirt, I am such a girly girl, and I love colors plus mixing and matching to see what works so I decided I would give this a try.

I kinda felt like a pretty human popsicle lol.

 

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Sunhat: Bought it from a Dillard’s in Huntsville Alabama at least 6 yrs ago. I truly just hang onto stuff ya’ll. I feel like at some point I can make it work and I just love the versatility and sophistication of it.

Top: Touch Dolls Boutique. I ABSOLUTELY love their stuff. It’s so chic and unique.

Skirt: Agaci (I think I’ve had it for a bit) and cannot quite remember but it’s so feminine and fun and festive.

Shoes: Vince Camuto.  I bought them as a birthday gift to myself from Bloomingdales last year. Probably my most favorite pair of shoes.

Jewelry: Bracelets are Alex and Ani and Bowties and Bourbon as well as some pieces I picked up from Agaci.

What are some pieces that you are looking forward to wearing this summer? What are some of your summer staples? Let me know, I would love to hear from you!

Eating Healthy on a Budget

We all want to eat a little more health conscious and with increased consciousness of mind we wish to treat our temples as best as we can. But we definitely aren’t trying to break the bank or spends insane amounts of money doing so (a trip to your local grocer, Whole Foods, or health food store uninformed and ill prepared can certainly have you emptying your pockets relatively quickly. I speak from experience folks) So here are some tips to assist you in living the healthiest you can and to arm you and assist you in making the most financially savvy and health conscious choices possible.

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  1. Plan your trips accordingly. I currently shop for the majority of my food once a month and try and cut and freeze everything that I can. I have a strategy of eating fresh produce first and everything else that can be flash frozen and stored next. I usually try to limit my grocery store trips so that I am not making multiple trips unless I actually NEED something. Plan your trips according to your household size, needs, eating patterns, and convenience.
  2. Prepare a list based off your meal prep and favorite snacks. I absolutely recommend making a list because it’s the impulse buys that will throw your budget completely out of whack. Nothing wrong with an occasional splurge but if it doesn’t fit into your meal prep or pantry or fridge staples you may want to leave it behind or ask yourself if it’s a need or a want.
  3. Meal prep. Meal prepping will not only save you time and money but it allows you to know what you are eating, plan your meals and snacks out, and keep you from getting off track and just buying takeout or eating fast food all the time. Additionally, it will allow you to mix and match with different foods and flavors to keep things interesting and may help you discover foods, herbs, or spices you never knew you would love.
  4. Check out the ads and compare prices BEFORE shopping. Knowing what’s in season and the normal price for various produce can save you TONS. Checking out your local coop, farmers market, or indoor markets is also a great way to stock up on fresh produce and save.
  5. When you can buy fresh produce,  but frozen veggies and fruit  are always a great substitute and contain the same nutritional value as fresh produce. Additionally, shop around for whole grains such as quinoa, brown rice, etc. Sometimes the organic store brand of some pantry staples is cheaper and similar in taste to your favorite name brand version.
  6. Buy beans and lentils in the bag and season them yourself. If you soak them for a few hours prior to cooking they are really tender and hold flavor like you wouldn’t believe. Plus, they are much healthier for you than canned items.
  7. Stay away from canned items whenever possible and items in fruit cups or anything processed. Good rule of thumb: If you can’t pronounce it or it sounds like it could kill you don’t eat it.
  8. Experiment with herbs and spices to add flavor to your favorite fruits and veggies.
  9. Try different cooking methods such as roasting, baking, sauteeing, and grilling.
  10. Buy a water filter or a pitcher that filters your water and experiment with fruits,  veggies, and spices  in making your own version of your own favorite flavors of infused water. You can use these to substitute for juices or sodas.
  11. Try out different varieties of herbal tea if you still want some flavor and can’t quite make the drastic switch to infused water just yet.
  12. Freeze your favorite fruits for a sweet treat. You can also make your own homemade ice cream with your favorite, frozen fruits,  favorite type of milk and spices.
  13. Pack leftovers from your meal prep and take them with you to work for lunch. If you get bored easily like I do with eating the same things throughout the week, make two meals that don’t require a lot of preparation or use ingredients that can be paired different ways like beans, fresh veggies, grains, protein (animal and non-animal) and store them in portable containers.
  14. Zip seal containers will become your best friend. You can use them for your leftovers, storing pantry staples, snacks, etc. Mason jars are also great for food storage and overnight oats.
  15. Shop the outside aisles as much as possible. That’s where all the REAL food lives.
  16. Don’t shop when you are hungry. Self explanatory.
  17. When you can stock up on your favorite pantry staples on BOGO and with a coupon. If the store runs out ask for a rain check and you can get that same item when they restock at the same price.
  18. Coupons!!! Most stores will allow you to stack their coupons as well as manufacturer’s coupon and any other applicable savings, so do your research and plan accordingly with a strategy in mind. I shop Publix and the indoor market for my fresh produce and mainly my meat (when I eat it) from Publix, my household items (tissue paper,  laundry detergent, dish detergent, little snacks, etc) from Winn Dixie because of the gas perks and all my toiletries from CVS (yayyy Extrabucks) Sounds like a lot but you would be surprised how much strategizing will save you money.
  19. Be aware of what things cost. Just because a retailer tells you something is a deal doesn’t make it true. DO YOUR RESEARCH AND BE AWARE.
  20. Be open to trying out new foods, vegan and vegetarian meals, meal types from other countries or with different flavor profiles. You may surprise yourself with all there is out there that tastes amazing and is HEALTHY to eat!
  21. Shop ethnic markets or foods. The flavors are explosive and you are guaranteed to get more bang for your buck!
  22. Organize your freezer, fridge, and pantry so you don’t buy things you already have and can take inventory of what you are actually using.
  23. Invest in a  good blender, spiralizer, and/or crock pot/slow cooker. Try out them and thank me later. LOL.  But seriously these are great tools to slowly add to your kitchen tool arsenal and that will encourage you to try new recipes
  24. Try out and research new recipes. There are so many resources online and via email list serv.
  25. Prepare and drink your own veggies via smoothie. Experiment with your taste buds but my go-to staple for green smoothies is a mix of kale, spinach, frozen, mangos, and peaches, almond milk, and protein powder of choice. But only your taste buds can tell you what works for you. This is a great and EASY way to get a full serving of veggies and fruits in early in the day. The earlier the better so you can burn off the sugar from the fruit.
  26. Most of all have fun! You are creating a greater YOU and what’s not to love about that?

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My absolutely fabulous trip to Seattle

I recently took a really exciting business trip to Seattle, Washington! I had an absolutely fabulous trip and wanted to share some of the highlights!

This will be as close to a day-by-day recap as I can remember as I am just recovering from my the time difference and getting back into the swing of things.

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I am going to throw this one out there for free…. It rains pretty regularly in Seattle. But being the fashionista I am I caught sight of and later visited the local Macy’s in Downtown Seattle. I really became enchanted with their street set up and planning (more on that later)

This was the first day there as we were breezing by to grab some lunch.

Speaking of lunch! YAYYYY!!!

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So this lunch was everything! This was from a local Thai restaurant called Mae Phim Thai. This was their Pad Him Ma Pan. I had them add pineapple and rice to this but the vegetables were so fresh, the food was full of flavor, and everything was prepared quickly and the service was awesome! Perfect local cuisine that is definitely worth checking out if you’re in the area. It wasn’t super expensive and I love Thai food so I always like to support small businesses when I go places as much as possible because I love getting a taste of the local flavor!

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My photo bomber proves my point exactly about the rain. But don’t you just love the architecture and buildings?  This is off Pike St near Palomino.

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All bundled up to do a bit of exploration. #selfietime

It was cold and rainy the first few days but I still enjoyed each of those days and gave me an excuse to wear my rainboots! For the win!

thumb_img_5155_1024YAYYYYY FOR MARIOS! If you’re a fashion fiend like I am then just seeing some of the street front stores gave you a bit of a thrill! Eeek!

thumb_img_5158_1024SPEAKING OF WHICH….. NORDSTROM FLAGSHIP STORE!!!!! Fashion girl heaven!!! Probably one of the most beautiful Nordstrom’s I’ve been in to date. The product offerings were amazing so of course I grabbed a piece of memorabilia. Let’s be honest. A fashionista never really needs a reason to shop. LOL  But I did grab a Ted Baker tote. Yayyyy! It was really useful this trip since I packed light (only my computer bag and my carry-on luggage)  and didn’t bring a handbag so it carried all my materials and goodies while I was there.

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Barney’s!!! Again a fashionista’s dream all within a square mile of each other!

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The planning and walkability is definitely A-1! Everything was in walking distance. Pacific Place boasts both shopping, dining, and entertainment with an AMC attached! Again the beautiful buildings were everything to ME!

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So getting back into the foodie scene! I really loved the Juicy Cafe because they are all about good vibes, good food (salads, wraps, bowls,) and even better smoothies and juices! I loved this quote and I went back later in the week for a green smoothie because I had a craving for one during the trip.

Truly about their natural food offerings. LOVE IT!!!

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This is a Mexi-Cali bowl with eggs, broccoli, salsa, spinach, cabbage, black beans, avocado, cumin lime greek yogurt, and cheddar cheese over brown rice. Tasty and fresh!

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This huge flower was sooo cute to me! I am not sure what it is but I love it so like the tourist I was it made the cut. It was off Union and 7th.

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The Great Wheel of Seattle overlooking Elliot Bay! Breathtaking view!

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Really cool statue and more amazing buildings! I definitely got my steps in on this trip! LOL

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I love that they have a biking program! I love any city that has a biking program! Great planning and healthy lifestyle options! Woot woot! And as you can see some of the bikes are already gone so some other people love that they have a bike program as well!

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Partial view of Smith Tower which was historically one of the tallest buildings in Seattle.

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Full view of Smith Tower

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Famous Pike Place Market! Got some great souvenirs #winning

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I’m a sucker for a cute sign! This was the sign at this amazing crepe place we went to one day for lunch! They were super yummy!

Sooooo remember when I said that I loved the Juicy Cafe and their offerings? Green smoothie on deck!

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thumb_img_5228_1024The Roosevelt Seattle

thumb_img_5221_1024We stumbled upon this really cool pizza place that allows you to put unlimited toppings on  for $8.99 Eeek! It’s called Mod Pizza and if you are ever in the area it’s definitely worth the trip.

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thumb_img_5236_1024Beautiful views from the Space Needle of Seattle

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thumb_img_5256_1024Space Needle Selfie with this lady who photobombed me and I started laughing after I realized it! I love a good photo bomb and her’s is super confident! LOL

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Selfie that represented what this trip was about… working and WERKING! Woot woot!

thumb_img_5214_1024Beautiful sunset overlooking Pike Place Market

I definitely enjoyed myself in Seattle and could see myself going back for another visit! I saw a lot but there’s still so much I wanted to see. But there’s always next time! So till next time Washington… and the movie title was true to form because I was truly Sleepless in Seattle.

What are some hidden treasures that you’ve visited in Seattle? What are some of your favorite things to do in Seattle?  Let me know, I would love to hear from you!

The journey of waiting in anticipation

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Life is full of moments where we are waiting in anticipation for something. Whether we are waiting for an appointment, our heart’s desires to be manifested, or simply in the checkout line at the grocery store. It can often be difficult to wait patiently as we live in a society that values instant gratification over the harvest from a good set of seeds that were planted and came into full bloom. But if we are to develop good character and be truly fruitful when we reach the point or place we are waiting on our attitude and disposition in the waiting room,  is just as important as our attitude at the point our number is finally called or we receive what we’ve been praying, waiting for, and anticipating. If we wait for our circumstances to be ideal to walk in the fruits of the Spirit,  are we truly living by faith or being led by our feelings?

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I am a believer that gratitude and a good disposition attract beautiful experiences, energy, and blessings that God desires for our life,  which are vital to our growth. Negativity and entitlement leave us wound up, bent out of shape, and just restless in the process of waiting and  are sent as spiritual attacks  to defeat you in the process of waiting. I believe that these attacks are sent to create despair, desperation, frustration, a sense of hopelessness, and in general attacks to derail you from your purpose and from walking in the full promises of God.

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I get it, you want it now! You don’t want to wait. You’re frustrated, you’re over it, and you just want what you want without having to keep looking at the clock , trying to figure out when it will happen and how it will happen. I’ve been there myself and have some things that I’m like “Alright God, any day now”.  But then the Holy Spirit checks me real quick like “Your life and my plans for it are greater than the time lines you set up for me and what you feel like you need. Continue to trust me and don’t rush ahead of me”.

 

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You see what I am coming to realize as I continue waiting for the manifestation of some things I desire is that God is concerned with my character as he prepares me for my destiny and purpose. My spirit needs to be yielded to however God chooses to move no matter what that may or may not look like because it’s trusting God and not trying to force his hand but allowing everything to flow beautifully as he intended. He never intended for me to be anxious and for my focus to  be on those temporal things but totally dedicated to Him and doing HIS WILL in my life.

So when I feel my emotions going off the rails or I am tempted to be impatient with the process I am comforted by the following scriptures:

Psalm 84:11 NLT

For the Lord God is our sun and shield. He gives us grace and glory. The Lord will withhold no good thing from those who do what is right.

Lamentations 3:25 KJV

The Lord is good unto them that wait for him, to the soul that seeketh him.

Psalm 37:7 KJV

Rest in the Lord, and wait patiently for him; fret not thyself because of him who prospereth in his way, because of the man who bringeth wicked devices to pass.

Hebrews 10:36 KJV

For ye have need of patience, that, after ye have done the will of God, ye might receive the promise.

Philippians 1:6 KJV

Being confident of this very thing, that he which hath began a good work in you will perform until the day of Jesus Christ.

Proverbs 13:12 KJV

Hope deferred maketh the heart sick: but when the desire cometh it is a tree of life.

Romans 8:25 NLT

But if we look forward to something we do not yet have, we must wait patiently and confidently.

Just a few but there are so many more jewels that help me get back on track when I am hanging on to waiting by a thread.

God is never going to forsake or fail us. He’s with us even in the waiting with tears streaming down our faces, frustration pangs in  our hearts, very near to giving up. He’s there. Waiting for us to release and LET GO and allow his beautiful masterpiece to be weaved. Let’s commit our deadlines, our desire to control, and our impatient spirits to our loving Father and find true rest and the beauty of being about his business working willingly and being productive and joyfully full of hope despite the wait.

Be encouraged and don’t give up. The wait may be frustrating but God never disappoints and he always exceeds expectations no matter how long the wait for the PROMISE,  for he already fulfilled the greatest promise through HIS SON. I can’t tell you when it will be over BUT I CAN  guarantee you it will be WORTH IT!

 

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Why my single life is just as fabulous and beautiful as married life

If you’re single like me you’re probably used to the following narrative and questions:

” We need to hurry up and find you a husband”

” When you getting married?”

” You live alone, all by yourself? That doesn’t get lonely?”

” I know you got a boyfriend, a man or something”

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And the list goes on……

For the most part, I take these comments and questions in stride because the majority of the time, they come from people who I am certain mean well but just want what they perceive is best for me.

But I am here today to state that my single life isn’t something I am DESPERATELY trying to shake free of  nor is it some type of death sentence that I believe God unfairly punished me with until a significant other arrives. I am in love with the life that I am currently leading because I realize love and happiness starts with ME and spreads abroad and I’ve got a lot of things that I am passionate about and that God has placed in my hands to steward and tend to in THIS MOMENT.

Society has put us into a mode where as single individuals we are constantly bombarded with the idea that you haven’t arrived until you have a husband or wife, 2 and a half kids, and a house with a white picket fence  and if you don’t…. WELL then you’ve clearly missed the mark. Or God doesn’t love you. Or you must have something wrong with you. But your worth comes from a lot more than just the mere notion of your marital status or what you’ve achieved in life. I’ve found that my worth is in Christ and in Christ alone and when I attempt to place it in anything else or look elsewhere for it then I always come up empty.

Don’t get me wrong I desire companionship and REAL LOVE. And there will definitely be a time to be married to an amazing man that adds to the amazing life that I already have and pour our love and Christ’s love into our offspring.   There will be a time to  build a beautiful life as a great mother and wife and carry out my individual and collective purpose with my husband that God placed me on this Earth for.  Those are roles that I believe are so honorable and beautiful and God graces each individual for. But that’s not the entirety of who I am and desire to be. Both of those roles take great preparation  and maturity to truly serve in the capacity that I believe God creates them for .

And what better time to prepare and love my life then right now in this very moment? Whatever issues I was dealing with as a single woman don’t magically disappear when I get married. If I don’t use this beautiful time right now to love myself, find myself and the things I love, and truly appreciate my own identity I may make the mistake of idolizing my future blessings of marriage and children. As a result I may also lose my sense of identity and wholeness misusing the gifts God has given me to steward in the long run.

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I’ve also been a single woman who’s been in the WRONG relationships. I’ve known what it feels like to lay next to someone and have your very worth and being taken for granted and to be greatly undervalued. I’ve known what it feels like  when the very things you do for someone are not GOOD ENOUGH and neither are you. I’ve felt hurt and pain and sense of being lost due to being in the wrong relationships and not being able to truly hear from God.

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I no longer desire those things for myself, thanks be to God and his great sense of deliverance and freedom. I am content to enjoy my single life until God orchestrates a meeting with a man worthy of who and what I am as a person. A man who is not threatened by those things but encourages and breathes life into those things as I do the same for him.  (talk about a beautiful God honoring partnership) And I say that in the most humblest terms possible.

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The next RELATIONSHIP I enter into will be intentional and it will be to a man who honors the God I serve, me, my womanhood, my accomplishments, the love I give and all the wonderful gifts and talents that I will bring to our relationship.

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Until then I am excited to:

  1. Grow deeper and stronger in my intimate relationship with God and be about my Father’s business.
  2. Learn from healthy and happy married couples what it takes to sustain a God filled marriage with a purpose filled partner.
  3. Travel! (woot woot)
  4. Learn to live fearlessly and bold and walking in faith
  5. Try new foods and cook new recipes
  6. Chase my dreams and make my career exactly what I want it to be with God’s discernment and wisdom
  7. Eat cereal for dinner if I feel like it (lol)
  8. Stretch out in my bed
  9. Dance around my apartment
  10. Sleep in
  11. Building amazing friendships
  12. Spend time with friends and family and fostering and growing those relationships
  13. Serve in my community
  14. Check out local treats and restaurants (yay! fun! )
  15. Workout as much as my little body can stand
  16. Make random trips anywhere
  17. Tinker with starting a business
  18. Write books and blogs and whatever else God puts on my heart
  19. Splurge guilt free on my heart’s desires
  20. Come and go as I please
  21. Read books, learn, grow, become a better woman FOR ME
  22. Move across the country or around the world
  23. Go wherever God may be calling me to serve his people
  24. Last but not least live my life abundantly as that is what Jesus died for me to do

I challenge you if you are in a relationship that in your heart you know you shouldn’t be in or has you living below the life  God intended for you, (short of your marriage because you in that thang till death do us part lol) I encourage you to examine whether you can truly live the divine life God intended you to with this person or if you are operating out of a place of loneliness, desperation, or boredom. I’ve been there and desperation will only detour you to dead ends. Trust the process, grow, learn, take care of yourself, figure yourself out, find out what you’re called to do and GO DO IT! Your life doesn’t start when you get a ring on your finger or your marital status changes, it starts every morning God breathes fresh breath into your body. Get busy! You never know who God may be using you to impact.

And my my,  what a special thing when you do encounter your future spouse (if God has placed that as a strong desire in your heart I believe and stand in agreement with you that he will honor it) if you’ve been busy enjoying your life and growing in God excelling in those gifts and talents we’ve all been blessed with.

So go enjoy your wild, fabulous, beautiful and blessed single life!  It’s so worth it!

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Making turmeric milk and infused water

 

 

turmeric milk
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As a part of living a healthier lifestyle and just a goal of trying out new recipes, I took some of my spare time last night and incorporated a new turmeric milk recipe into my arsenal of recipes and added a new flavor to my infused water.

Here is a picture of the results :

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Infused water:

I chopped up about  3-6 lemon wedges, 7-9 cucumber slices, and added  a tsp of ground ginger, and just some good ol’ H20. Store overnight in fridge  for maximum infusion flavor and enjoy!

Turmeric milk:

A cup of vanilla almond milk, a tbsp of cinnamon and nutmeg, and a tsp of  raw organic sugar cane. Shake well for about 2 min to ensure all ingredients are well mixed. You can either warm up the milk or drink it cold. I warmed it up and it tasted absolutely delicious. I am trying to replace my caffeine fix for coffee with herbal teas and other warm drink recipes. This recipe came in handy just in time and I didn’t even have any caffeine crashes without coffee and this had a nice smooth, spicy but sweet taste. You can adjust the recipe as you see fit. It will come out a bright yellow color, even though from  my picture it appears a warm brown. #lightingprobs

Both turmeric and infused water have natural detox and anti-inflammatory properties so it’s even better that these drinks taste great and are great for you!

What are some of your favorite health food drinks or smoothies? Let me know, I would love to hear from you!