Why your past is purposeful and preparatory for your path

Hey ya’ll! Whew when I say this year flew in and flew out, it really did! I can’t believe we are a mere few days from a new year and decade! I’m super excited! With the end of one year and decade and standing on the cusp of the next, it’s often a time we use for reflection and intention setting but often times we use this time to ponder on loss or regret. While those are normal human emotions and reactions, our past is a wonderful tapestry on the quilt of the fabric of our lives we are weaving daily,  that propels us to the next moment,  and ultimately our destiny. Let’s dig a little bit deeper and really delve into why our past is purposeful for our path and how we can use it to be powerful in the present and fearless facing the future.

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When evaluating the past (speaking from personal experience) it’s easy to deeply romanticize our past based off our current vantage point or to examine all the ways that life would be different if different decision or set of decisions were made. While introspection and reflection are useful and beautiful tools, it’s often wasteful to continue ruminating on things that ultimately  cannot be changed without planning intentionally and thoughtfully on how the effects of those decisions can STILL BE USED to craft a purposeful, beautiful, and powerful life in the present and future. Also consider the wisdom and perspective you’ve gained are amazing tools, to not only assist you on your journey, but to empower and impact others.

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Often life’s most profound and greatest lessons are found in what I like to believe are the trial and trust ( trial and error is programming stating that there is a right or wrong way to get through life or life’s journey with a desired outcome) process. I say trial and trust because when something is tried it either reveals that is something that’s for you or not for you and there is beauty in that. The path to your most divinely aligned life is all about trusting your own process and learning to be intuitive to listen to your own voice and desires that assists you in crafting that vision that is perfectly aligned even if the road has its twists and turns and different expected outcomes.

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The beautiful part of a journey isn’t the destination, it’s the wholeness of who you become by the time you get there and tools, wisdom, and insight you obtain to sustain the continuous path to greatness. Also, consider that every moment is carefully crafted (both pleasurable and not so pleasurable) and paves the way for your next step and often even the steps that lead into the steps after that. When I examine my own life and my life trajectory even up to this very moment, I realize that there has not been a SINGLE step or place in time (even when I couldn’t fathom the great unfolding) that has been wasted by God and the Universe to shape me into the person I am today,  and where I am headed in the future. I am constantly reminded everywhere I look that in time God makes everything beautiful and that’s not just a cliche saying it’s reality.

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Consider the ghosts of your past as gifts to your present and future, and don’t allow them to haunt you. Instead make peace with them and allow them to be what inspires you in your future and gives you power in your present. Don’t stay stuck in your past unable to move ahead. Look back at the past only as a reminder of how far you’ve grown and with gratitude and hope of what lies ahead. Be thankful that you’re not the same and for the wisdom and gifts you’ve gained to share with others who might benefit from your change.

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Yes, you faced some challenges in your past. But are you really going to allow your past to rob you of your power or will you stand and own your power in the present, moment by moment until it leads to your  desired future? Let go of regret and see your past as the opportunity to consistently press reset on a version of yourself and your life that doesn’t serve you in your present or future reality. See the purpose in your past, allow it to propel you with grace and confidence into your present, and live fruitfully and abundantly in your future.

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Are there things you still hold onto from your past? Do you feel blocked because of your past? What would serve you well to let go of? What are some things you’ve overcome from your past that are helpful or beneficial to you currently and as you make preparations for the future? Let me know in the comments! I truly can’t say enough that I love and appreciate the support and I love hearing from you guys!

Know Your Worth and add Luxury Tax

The phrase know your worth and add tax has become such a common phrase in culture and social media. We see it everywhere, we make mantras to forge our lives and live it but what does it really mean in actuality?

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Society causes us to place worth and value in a lot of things: careers, money, status, desirability, followers, love, success, the list goes on. But if any of those things change, the very foundation of how worthy you feel as a person could come crumbling down right along with it. Yes, these are great accomplishments, and you should always be striving to become a better version of yourself than you were yesterday but you’re not a title, or what you do, or who does or doesn’t love you, or how many followers you have. YOU ARE YOU. And that level of value extends far beyond the tangible things that you can see, touch or feel. It goes deep down to the core of who you are as a person, your spirit, the things you’ve experienced and how it has shaped you, how you treat others, what energy you put out into the world and mostly HOW YOU SHOW UP IN THE WORLD.

Before we get into how you can know your worth and add luxury tax let’s look at what a luxury tax is. A luxury tax is a tax rate placed slightly above the standard tax rate and which tends to be a little more costly. So, why would you want to add a luxury tax to your own worth?  To ensure that you’re always slightly beyond reach or require a little bit more for yourself than the baseline level of what is required. Essentially, what this ends up looking like is you don’t grant  access to people, places,  and opportunities, the energy that you have for anything that does not serve your greatest good, and align with your truest, most valuable self. This will save you time and energy from expending the best parts of yourself to things that are just not worthy.

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Is this to say your life will always be this linear path where you never make a mistake or misstep? Heck no! Will you never NOT SETTLE EVER? You’re human so don’t give yourself that weighty responsibility of living this life of perfectionism. Let’s be honest, we’ve all been there. We accepted a job that we knew didn’t align with what our true purpose or calling is, we didn’t push for that extra set of coins at the negotiation table and now we beat ourselves up regularly (free yourself from that burden too), we allowed someone in a romantic situation to cloud our judgment as to whether or not they were the best partner for us and ignored our own needs, wants, and values in an effort to be accepted, validated, and affirmed.  We often say we want one thing,  but our actions say something completely different as it relates to living our best life etc,. The important thing is to acknowledge what didn’t align in your life, pray, forgive yourself and seek divine guidance and forgiveness as well.

So how do you get back on track with knowing your worth and adding luxury tax to live out the most fabulous version of your best life possible?

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  1. You establish what you’re worth from within and from God.

If you wait on this world to tell you what you’re worth and affirm you, you’re going to always be on a whirlwind roller coaster of emotions based off of others affirmations and beliefs for you. If you affirm yourself, then any other opinions are just icing on the cake,  and the not the cake itself. This isn’t about puffing yourself up with false confidence, but really being able to do the work, show up the way you truly desire, and living the life that God purposed for you. Get yourself some affirmations you truly believe in and do the work until you see the results you desire.

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2. Forgive yourself

You messed up. You settled, You tolerated. Something you did, didn’t represent the best you know you have to offer the world. Accept that. Forgive yourself. Start your healing process, and give yourself the grace and kindness to move forward. Don’t keep reliving and replaying the scenarios and hurt over and over in your head. Lift that burden off your shoulders, learn the lessons you need to learn from it, and be committed to carrying the lessons on with you into the next chapter of your life.

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3. Figure out why you settled

Take some time out and really assess why you settled or didn’t really position yourself to be able to do the things you desired or were best for yourself. Be honest with yourself. Whether that means going to counseling/therapy, writing it out in a journal, having quiet time, etc. Whatever it takes get in tune with yourself, and figure out how you can be committed to knowing your worth and living a life that speaks that.

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4. Walk in it

It’s probably the most simplistic of all the steps, but perhaps the most difficult to achieve. We often get stuck in either figuring out why we settled, or in the inability to forgive ourselves. Once you’ve done the assessment and the work, its time to move forward and just live what you learned. That’s what knowing your worth is truly all about, knowing what you’re worthy of in this life, and showing up in the world ready and willing to manifest it.

Pray that this blessed you! What are some ways you might have not known your worth? How did you come back from that? What are some tips you would give others? Let me know in the comments, I so love hearing from you all!