Rest is just as important as progress to achieve success

 

 

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Hey ya’ll! It’s been a minute, but I’m back! It’s been a busy and crazy set of months. I hope that everyone is well and is staying safe during the quarantine and with everything going on with COVID-19. It’s definitely been an unprecedented time with everything going on, but even with all the loss that many have experienced as a result it can still be a time of reflection, reset, and revamping how we do life in general. This time has really shown us what’s truly important to us and how vital rest on both an emotional, mental, and physical as well as spiritual level are to our overall well-being.

Rest is far from being in a state of stagnancy or inactivity, rather a time to examine whether we are focused on being as much as we are doing. In fact, it is in the being that we are truly able to activate and resonate with the truth of what we are actually PURPOSED to be DOING instead of doing for doing’s sake. It is in our quiet moments, our rest and recovery periods, we begin to realize that that we’ve been doing for the purpose of others that offers no fulfillment and how we can be of better service to ourselves and others, what depletes us, what energizes us, what warms our hearts, what breathes new life into us, and even discover the next great thing that will propel us to the next level of success.

When we get into the habit of just doing for doing sake, we are out of alignment not only within ourselves and with our connection to others but also to divine alignment that we were created for. As much as doing is great, it is often underrated how much rest is the batteries in our clock that make things tick that allow us to progress to success, thus one cannot exist without the other. Rest allows us to connect our being and doing in a purposeful and passionate way. Being allows us to be guided by our true north, character, integrity and what is ultimately right for us. Being connects our hearts to our head so that our decisions are not mechanical and out of touch and effective to affect those that the results are meant to reach. Being keeps us holistically healthy, because we begin to feel when things are not right on every level and can pivot to correct and realign. Being keeps us connected to humanity because it reminds us of our own fragility but also interconnectedness to the next person. Being allows us to show up present and offer our best to the world without being burnt out, on autopilot, or without intention. In our rest periods we get to understand the purpose behind our doing and what vision is best to build that, our doing just guides those actions into reality. May we never lose touch with that, and in those times you feel as though rest must take a backseat to progress and success, remind yourself that rest is the engine to drive your personal life vehicle to success?

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What does rest look like though? It could be a variety of things based off what speaks to your soul and guides your heart but here are a few ways to offer rest to your mind, heart, body, and soul:

  1. Meditation
  2. Journaling
  3. Listening to  soothing music
  4. Dancing to inspiring, upbeat, or uplifting music
  5. Aromatherapy or burning candles and just enjoying relaxation
  6. Often underrated : SILENCE
  7. Sipping your favorite beverage from your favorite cup
  8. Painting, crafts, pottery and anything where you can pour all your heart and soul into a creative energy without a certain expectation or outcome
  9. Coloring or drawing
  10. Writing
  11. Self care (whatever that looks like)
  12. Reading a great book and truly getting lost in it
  13. Redecorating or making your living space comfortable and conducive to you and your peace and joy
  14. Spiritual practices that bring you closer to center and clarity
  15. Sleep or naps that allow you to feel rested
  16. Periods of time away (whether a vacation or staycation) that allow you to relax and unwind as well as reflect on the simplicity and goodness of life

These are just a few to get you started but whatever makes you peaceful and centered and allows you clarity and joy is something that should regularly be infused into the fabric of your life and daily or regular routines.

What are some ways you’ve found to rest during the quarantine? What does rest look like to you? Do you find that you’ve had to teach yourself how to have rest within? Leave me a question or note in the comments, I love to hear from you all and thank you so much as always to each of you that have come on this journey with me.

Know Your Worth and add Luxury Tax

The phrase know your worth and add tax has become such a common phrase in culture and social media. We see it everywhere, we make mantras to forge our lives and live it but what does it really mean in actuality?

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Society causes us to place worth and value in a lot of things: careers, money, status, desirability, followers, love, success, the list goes on. But if any of those things change, the very foundation of how worthy you feel as a person could come crumbling down right along with it. Yes, these are great accomplishments, and you should always be striving to become a better version of yourself than you were yesterday but you’re not a title, or what you do, or who does or doesn’t love you, or how many followers you have. YOU ARE YOU. And that level of value extends far beyond the tangible things that you can see, touch or feel. It goes deep down to the core of who you are as a person, your spirit, the things you’ve experienced and how it has shaped you, how you treat others, what energy you put out into the world and mostly HOW YOU SHOW UP IN THE WORLD.

Before we get into how you can know your worth and add luxury tax let’s look at what a luxury tax is. A luxury tax is a tax rate placed slightly above the standard tax rate and which tends to be a little more costly. So, why would you want to add a luxury tax to your own worth?  To ensure that you’re always slightly beyond reach or require a little bit more for yourself than the baseline level of what is required. Essentially, what this ends up looking like is you don’t grant  access to people, places,  and opportunities, the energy that you have for anything that does not serve your greatest good, and align with your truest, most valuable self. This will save you time and energy from expending the best parts of yourself to things that are just not worthy.

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Is this to say your life will always be this linear path where you never make a mistake or misstep? Heck no! Will you never NOT SETTLE EVER? You’re human so don’t give yourself that weighty responsibility of living this life of perfectionism. Let’s be honest, we’ve all been there. We accepted a job that we knew didn’t align with what our true purpose or calling is, we didn’t push for that extra set of coins at the negotiation table and now we beat ourselves up regularly (free yourself from that burden too), we allowed someone in a romantic situation to cloud our judgment as to whether or not they were the best partner for us and ignored our own needs, wants, and values in an effort to be accepted, validated, and affirmed.  We often say we want one thing,  but our actions say something completely different as it relates to living our best life etc,. The important thing is to acknowledge what didn’t align in your life, pray, forgive yourself and seek divine guidance and forgiveness as well.

So how do you get back on track with knowing your worth and adding luxury tax to live out the most fabulous version of your best life possible?

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  1. You establish what you’re worth from within and from God.

If you wait on this world to tell you what you’re worth and affirm you, you’re going to always be on a whirlwind roller coaster of emotions based off of others affirmations and beliefs for you. If you affirm yourself, then any other opinions are just icing on the cake,  and the not the cake itself. This isn’t about puffing yourself up with false confidence, but really being able to do the work, show up the way you truly desire, and living the life that God purposed for you. Get yourself some affirmations you truly believe in and do the work until you see the results you desire.

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2. Forgive yourself

You messed up. You settled, You tolerated. Something you did, didn’t represent the best you know you have to offer the world. Accept that. Forgive yourself. Start your healing process, and give yourself the grace and kindness to move forward. Don’t keep reliving and replaying the scenarios and hurt over and over in your head. Lift that burden off your shoulders, learn the lessons you need to learn from it, and be committed to carrying the lessons on with you into the next chapter of your life.

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3. Figure out why you settled

Take some time out and really assess why you settled or didn’t really position yourself to be able to do the things you desired or were best for yourself. Be honest with yourself. Whether that means going to counseling/therapy, writing it out in a journal, having quiet time, etc. Whatever it takes get in tune with yourself, and figure out how you can be committed to knowing your worth and living a life that speaks that.

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4. Walk in it

It’s probably the most simplistic of all the steps, but perhaps the most difficult to achieve. We often get stuck in either figuring out why we settled, or in the inability to forgive ourselves. Once you’ve done the assessment and the work, its time to move forward and just live what you learned. That’s what knowing your worth is truly all about, knowing what you’re worthy of in this life, and showing up in the world ready and willing to manifest it.

Pray that this blessed you! What are some ways you might have not known your worth? How did you come back from that? What are some tips you would give others? Let me know in the comments, I so love hearing from you all!